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35 years…a promise

35 years! Wow, we both realized that we have been a couple for a long time. We are thankful for how God has used and taught us about marriage and each other in these 35 years. But I would have to say, that He has really used these years to teach us about His love and grace. Because we both understand that God lives in us through His Spirit we can both experience and possess love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control. Don’t get me wrong, we are human so we also fail and struggle to allow His Spirit to lead. Therefore, we take over and begin to make a mess of our lives and marriage.

There have been difficult times, struggling, hurting, and painful times. Times we fought and ignored and weren’t considerate of each other. Times we were selfish and rude and not putting each other first. Marriage is a marathon…you run with endurance, it is a long haul. And in that marathon, there will be highs and lows, but our goal is to finish, to complete the task of the holy union we pledged to each other and to God.

We know there will be tough days ahead of us, but we also know that God is our lead. He is really our true goal and we want to honor Him in this marriage. We want to live and love in such a way as to lead others to Him and not just a good marriage. We are blessed to have a good marriage, a marriage of 35 years, but even more blessed that God is using us in the lives of our children and friends, and maybe others.

Think about it…marriage is a commitment to love and be devoted. God is using my marriage to teach me about being devoted to Him. To give myself, to share in the joy of being united, to know His love for me goes on and is eternal. 35 years is nothing but practice for eternity. Thank you, Lord, for Sabrina and for using our marriage to draw us near to you. I promise to be faithful to You.

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She showed me…

This time of the year brings so many memories and thoughts of my family. In the 60’s and 70’s when I was a boy I lived in a small town where everybody knew you and you knew everybody. Families were close and sat at a table together regularly. Your thoughts and actions in many ways mimicked or represented your family. I tried hard to please my parents and wanted them to be proud of me. I wanted to be like them, I wanted to follow in their footsteps. By the way…I was so proud of them and who they were then. They weren’t perfect but God used them to mold me and shape me.

I loved my dad dearly and still miss him every day but my mom was really a constant image in all of our lives. Not because she was an incredible cook and loved us without reservation, it was because of the way she served and cared for us. She taught all of us how to serve others. She taught me how to give of myself tirelessly. She was that constant in our home, loving, caring, cleaning, cooking, and serving in many ways. Not just her family but others as well. I didn’t realize until recently that she has been an image of Christ, who “did not come to be served, but to serve and to give His live as a ransom for many.”

My mom has showed me…she has showed me how to serve my family, friends, others, and especially Christ. Her life has been an example to me in many ways. Even as a 60 year old man I am still learning from her. Even now, she is showing me how to live in His grace.

She showed me what it means to follow Christ. This Thanksgiving like so many before, I am so thankful for my mom, Elva. The joy-filled, gracious, godly mother who has showed me how to serve.

I love you mom…

I am reminded…

This past Wednesday was National Bologna Day! I know my wife doesn’t like it and I know a lot of people don’t care for it but what’s wrong with bologna, I am celebrating!

My dad was a high school teacher and coach and I actually had one class with him through high school and he was my golf coach. I also had the opportunity to eat lunch with my dad almost on a daily basis. I know that sounds weird… but I was a weird kid. My dad would pack us a lunch most days and I would come to his classroom and eat lunch with him. I remember a lot of those lunches being a bologna sandwich… maybe it was his favorite, maybe a reminder to him of a special meal growing up poor in Mexico City. All I know is that we shared lunch together and had bologna sandwiches. It was also when my dad would tell me about how Christ was using him to witness to others, how God was growing His faith, and how I had a chance to see and hear my dads passion for Christ. I didn’t know it at the time but those meals were a gift, special, not just another bologna sandwich.

I am reminded… of those memorable lunch times with my dad. I am reminded…of his love for God which has also challenged me to follow Christ with passion. I am also reminded that I really like bologna sandwiches, maybe it’s the taste, maybe it’s the memory, maybe both, I just know that those gourmet lunches with my dad help me to “taste and see that the Lord is good.”

I am reminded… I think I will have a bologna sandwich today.

Every family has a superhero…

Every family has a superhero…this includes my family.  I have seen it, I’ve witnessed a superhuman effort and courage for some time now.  It has been amazing to see the endurance and perseverance, but also the patience that you normally don’t see in people especially today.

This superhero has gone through two knee replacements and one hip surgery and cares for an aging mother who has a struggle hearing but still has a lot of fight in her.  What incredible spirit it has taken for her to carry on and work, cook, clean, and care for children, family, and also finish her undergraduate degree 30 years later.  On top of all of that she has been losing weight and dealing with the stigma society places on people who are overweight, by the way she has lost 125 pounds.  She has to be superhuman…how could she have done all those things and still press on.  She is a strong lady and a picture of extraordinary strength and will power.  I would say the strength came from her father, but I also see in her the strength of her mother.

I am convinced that this is not on her own, she had an earthly father who closed his bedroom door and spoke to his heavenly Father about her daily.  I am sure he wept and agonized over his baby girl, hoping for health and happiness for her.  His prayer has been answered for years as she continues to be a strength to her family, to me and my family, and to her mother.

I am so grateful for my sister Annette…by the way she is an amazing cook and just about cooked the whole Thanksgiving meal for us this year with energy to spare.  She is amazing…and I know her strength comes from the Lord.

Definition: superhero-a very heroic person, a successful person.  I would say she is successful in all that she has done.  Not successful according to this world, successful according to God, “honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” Proverbs 31:31.

I love you Annette, Happy Birthday!

(photo left to right, Annette, René, and Toni)


December 11

Today is December 11…December 11, 2011, I received an incredible gift. My dad had been in the hospital several days and was not improving, in fact, he was dying. But not that day, it was his birthday.

The family had gathered around him hoping to cheer him up and make him feel better through giving a few gifts and celebrating his life. However, it didn’t happen that way…instead, God gave us a gift.

My dad became joyous and strong. He laughed and enjoyed our company.  He was the dad I remember as a kid, he was strengthened that day by God to bless us and remind us that He (God) is the God of the living, not the dead.  God gave us a gift that day…we truly experienced our dad in his new life. It was a gift I will never forget.

One, we celebrated a wonderful day with my dad, his last birthday. Two, we experienced a life changed by Jesus Christ, there was evidence in my dad’s life and death.  What a day, what a gift… “I come that you may have life.”


an instrument of peace…

I was listening to the radio and one of the announcers began to talk about this stressful time of the year.  There is so much stress and busyness, I don’t disagree.  It can be very rushed and chaotic.  So much so that we want to be alone and quiet…at peace.

I have also read a few articles lately about comfort dogs, they actually help with healing and happiness.  I have two dogs that bring me joy and a few laughs, but they are not trained to bring comfort.  I do love the idea of dogs being a comfort to people who are living on the edge or need unconditional love.  I read another story about robots as caregivers, they are putting them in homes to provide emotional as well as physical support.  They are designed to create a bond of trust and improve the quality of life.

I think God has called me to bring peace.  Hopefully, as I walk into my mom’s house this Thanksgiving, I will bring a calmness and a sense of peace.  God has called me to bring His peace, His comfort.  I want to bring healing and happiness to my mom, my family, and everyone I encounter.  I know I can do just the opposite, but as I spend more time in His Word I begin to understand and take on and live out His peace.  I bring an emotional support that comes from His Spirit within me.  God uses me as a peacemaker, and I am always amazed how others begin to trust and want this same peace, a peace that comes from Christ through me, I am an instrument of His peace.

I am anxious to see my mom and family, enjoy the food, and bring comfort, peace…a nature that God has given me.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.”

Have a peaceful Thanksgiving…

It’s been a year…

I cannot believe it has been a whole year. As I get older time just moves by so fast, but memories and life lessons still happen and become etched in our minds.  It is like I have lived in two worlds, two wonderful and incredible worlds.  They are very different, but I treasure them both as precious moments God is using to still form me into the man of God He wants me to be.

One world, an academic setting, predominantly Hispanic community, a very difficult and challenging leadership role.  The very first day I was in that role I realized that this was going to be a God thing, there was no way I could do this, I wasn’t really qualified.  God reminded me that He does the qualifying, He calls and we must obey His leadership.  Despite my inadequacies, He had a plan.  In that environment, I learned so much from my culture, my hermanos, and hermanas, God taught me so much in that world and it wasn’t easy but if we allow Him… He will lead us.

The second world, a church, a predominantly Anglo community, a whole new learning experience for me.  I have felt called and used in ministry for many years – in a Christian educational role and now in the church. I am eager to serve and lead, but I also want to let God show me His way, His will, to wait on Him and His perfect time. I love serving the church. I am learning so much from the incredible leaders around me. I also once again realize how inadequate I am to lead, but He has called me to this place and I am following.

Two different worlds, two challenges, but in this year God has brought these two experiences together to reveal His way in my life.  I am truly blessed by God’s call in my life, I am trusting Him and asking Him to use me. The Scripture says, If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.

I am following and asking Him to lead me…I look forward to another year of seeing His hand in my life.

Let’s play…

Growing up in my Hispanic home in New Mexico was different.  My father was a public-school teacher, so like him, I learned to love and accept anyone, black, white, rich, poor, those who went church and those who didn’t. My dad loved and cared for all of them.  I guess you could say he taught me to do the same and to not be ashamed or defensive about who I was, where I lived, or what I had compared to others.  My self-worth didn’t come from them it came from my father’s love for me.  He never told me or taught me to hate others because they were different. Most of the time he told me to go and play with them and be friends with them…so I did.  In time, we went to school together, sat on a bus together, played sports together. Nothing really divided us.

It wasn’t till junior high that I finally felt the sting of someone who didn’t like me because I was a Mexican-American.  I knew I was, but that label didn’t define me. They really didn’t know me or play with me.  And even though they said it, it didn’t change my outlook on who I was.  I still had that identity with my father who loved me and that was enough.

In a time when people are acting and speaking hate, it reminds me that we need the Father’s love.  He loved us so much that He wanted to restore us back to our true identity.  Not as children of this world, but as His creation, created in His image and likeness.  We need that love so that we can love others so we can play together again.

I am grateful for my culture, but even more thankful that I am a child of God…His son.  “To all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.”

Does anyone want to play?

Listening to the wind…

We sat and talked and watched as people went by, but more than anything else we just listened.  We sat and listened to ocean waves come in and out and felt the ocean breeze.  After a while, we began to hear ourselves, our heartbeats, our breath, and then we began to hear God’s Spirit.  John 3:8 says, “The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.”

Sometimes it is taking time away from your familiar place and friends to hear God’s Spirit within you.  There are too many interruptions and noises going on in our lives daily to truly listen and know His leadership and calling.  Last week, I spent five days with my wife at a beachside location to rest, be still, be with her, and to listen to the Spirit of God.

Daily we took the time to talk about our family, faith, hopes and dreams for the coming year, and we also took the time to stop and listen.  We are always talking or making noise, but rarely do we stop to listen.  It takes an effort to listen.  It is a discipline to be still and quiet, and in that stillness, it will amaze you how that time actually renews and refreshes you with new thoughts and ideas for life and love as well as understanding your dependence on God.  The God of creation who stopped one day and “rested from all of His work.”  He knows you need that time to rest and to hear the wind blow.

Taking time to rest in our busy pace is important, but as you rest be sure and stop and listen- listen for His Spirit to speak life and newness into your day.  He is speaking…are you listening?


a new thing…

The demolition has started.  Last week, I traveled back to San Antonio to see some friends and I had a chance to drive by the old campus of the Baptist University of the Americas.  I spent almost 10 years driving up to that campus and walking through those doors and hallways.  I knew just about every inch of that campus and the buildings.  We had patched, repaired, hammered and caulked many holes, spaces and walls.  It was a labor of love to keep those buildings usable and functioning.  They were old and worn out, but they were buildings that trained many Hispanic church leaders for many years as well as one Hispanic past president.  I am so grateful for those years God used me and trained me on those holy grounds.

 Now it was coming down.  The school has a new campus.  The old campus was purchased and now the old buildings were being demolished.  As I walked around outside and looked at the old buildings, I thought about how God used that place to call many into service and I thought about the many students who had passed through those halls on their way to ministry and churches.  I also thought about the wonderful leaders and professors who also served and gave themselves to the students and to the University.  Their work and their teaching and leading was also a labor of love.  They also taught me how to serve.  God used those old buildings and that place to train me.  He called me to BUA so that I would also be trained for ministry.

It was difficult as I walked around and saw parts of the buildings I recognized. I saw furniture and the pews of the chapel scattered around outside.  Those old hallways, fixtures and furniture were going away and would become just memories.  It truly was holy ground for me.

Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV)

18 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  19 See, I am doing a new thing!   Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?  I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

 Now God is doing a new thing at BUA. There are great days ahead and we cannot dwell on the past. He will continue to sustain the University and will continue to make a way for many Hispanic students who dream the dream of a college education.  I thank God for those old buildings and the time I trained there, but now He is doing a new thing…even in my life.

To God be the glory!